Seven Things That Will Help Single People Survive Valentine’s Day
If you’re like most single people, you probably find yourself dreading the arrival of Valentine’s Day. You will be surrounded by bright red displays that proclaim the merits of hyperbolic sentimentality for weeks, and you’ll be bombarded by adverts for romantic dinners at wonderful restaurants. In this sort of environment, it’s easy to feel as though being single makes you a failure. However, there are things you can do to avoid feeling low around Valentine’s Day, and there are even some ways to transform this holiday into something that you can genuinely enjoy. Keep these seven ideas in mind.
1) Put the focus on other types of loving relationships
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to focus on romance. Why not connect the day with love in a broader sense, and choose to celebrate with family or close friends? You might want to arrange a dinner, plan a cozy movie night, and just send small tokens of affection to all of the people who make the world a better place for you.
2) Acknowledge that Valentine’s Day paints an inaccurate picture of relationships
If the cards, movies and adverts are to be believed, couples are blissfully happy and nauseatingly in love at all times. This idealized representation of romantic relationships can make loneliness very acute in single people, as it suggests that being without a partner means missing out on a huge number of things. However, while there are perks to being in a committed relationship, don’t forget that being with someone also involves arguments, a reduction in freedom, and the chance of growing to resent one another. There are two sides to love.
3) Treat yourself
You can also have a great time on Valentine’s Day without the presence of any other person. For example, you can view it as a day to take care of yourself, and do something particularly rejuvenating or relaxing. Whether you’d like to book a spa treatment or lie down under a fuzzy blanket and read a book, just make sure you treat yourself.
4) Don’t forget that many happy couples don’t even like Valentine’s Day
You’ll feel less like you’re missing out on February 14th if you take some time to complete the fact that even people in good relationships don’t always celebrate the holiday. Many choose to ignore it, finding it too forced or commercialized. So, even if you weren’t single, you may not get much out of the holiday.
5) Give something back to your community
Valentine’s Day can be a lonely time for some older people, especially those who have little contact with family members or those who continue to grieve after the loss of a spouse. By volunteering to deliver small gift baskets or flowers to people in nursing homes, you can make a difference (and boost your own spirits) this year.
6) Look into events for single people
Bars and clubs know that there is a market for events that allow people to escape from the ‘hearts and flowers’ theme of Valentine’s Day, so you might find that a local venue is hosting a fun night that you can attend. If you can arrange to go out with a group of likeminded friends, you might end up having more fun than all the couples packed into crowded restaurants.
7) Remember that you are not alone
Finally, while the overwhelming focus on romance may make you feel like you are the only single person in the world this February, the truth is that at least sixty million other people lack a partner on Valentine’s Day. So, in addition to being in good company, you have lots of potential partners to meet!