Relationships can be difficult, but there are certain things people do that make them even more of a challenge. Having a healthy relationship doesn’t mean that you have to be perfect. No one is perfect. If you have bad relationship habits though, you do want try to break them in order to have a healthy relationship.
A small amount of jealousy in relationships is perfectly fine. It makes people feel wanted and attractive. Jealousy becomes a problem when it begins dictating how one person lives, where they can go, and who they can talk to. Jealousy can ruin otherwise healthy relationships. If you’re overly jealous, you need to figure out if you are insecure or if you don’t trust your partner and then figure out how to solve the problem from there.
2. Taking one another for granted
If you’ve been dating someone for a while, it’s easy to begin expecting things from your partner when it become routine. It’s important to always show your appreciation for things your partner does. Don’t forget to say “thank you.” When one partner begins to feel unappreciated and taken for granted, problems will arise.
3. You sacrifice everything you want for your partner
This seems like it would be a sweet idea, but giving in to everything your partner wants actually creates an unequal relationship. Doing everything to make your partner happy and ignoring your own happiness is a bad idea because is gives your partner the idea that ignoring your wants and needs is okay.
4. You want things done your way
It’s important to remember that you have a partner and not a twin. Your partner isn’t going to wash the dishes exactly the way you do. Your partner won’t chop the vegetable just the way you do and you might not like the way it’s done. But you are not twins. You will ruin your relationship by attempting to get your partner to do everything your way. You might like the way you do things, but that doesn’t mean it’s the only way. Instead of criticizing your partner, show your appreciation.
5. You don’t have a life of your own
Even if you’re totally cool with your partner hanging out with friends, it’s important that you have a life of your own. Hang out with your friends as well. Join a book club. Go to the gym. Don’t just sit around at home waiting for your partner to come home. This can put pressure on your partner to come back early, especially if you’re the kind of person who texts a lot to ask when they’re expected to return.
Healthy relationships require healthy habits. If you find yourself committing any of the above habits that are unhealthy, work on them actively and you’ll find your relationship improve dramatically.