5 Signs That Your Relationship May Be Coming to an End and What You Can Do About It
By Kristie Lynn
At the beginning of a committed romantic relationship, both people usually feel overwhelmed with love, happiness and excitement. A relationship typically has a hopeful beginning, so when it starts to fizzle, it can be very difficult to accept or recognize. If your relationship was on the rocks, do you think you would notice the signs? It is important to know what red flags to look for, so that you can determine if your relationship is in trouble. The following five signs are common in relationships that may be coming to an end.
1. Not wanting intimate contact
In the initial phases of a romantic relationship the passion for each other is intense. As time goes by, it is normal for that burning passion to die down to sparks. The problem happens when the fire completely goes out, and there are no sparks left. When you or your partner no longer want to have intimate contact, it is often a sign that there is something deeper going on within your relationship. Physical intimacy can be a sensitive subject, so it is best for you to approach the topic in a respectful manner.
2. Getting into more arguments
Occasional arguments are normal in every relationship, however, if the arguments begin to happen more frequently, this could be a sign of another problem. When couples are frustrated with each other, they tend to pick more fights. Getting into frequent arguments can also be a way of trying to end things, without actually coming out and saying it. If this starts to happen, you should sit down and evaluate why you are having so many arguments.
3. Developing feelings for someone else
From time to time, even in a healthy relationship, one partner may develop a short-lived crush. Having a crush becomes threatening to the relationship when you start to develop deep feelings for your crush. When you are completely happy in a monogamous relationship, you do not typically search for other romantic partners. When one partner begins to develop deep feelings for another person, this can indicate a lack of commitment in the relationship. If you notice that a crush isn’t going away, it may be time to talk to your partner about what this crush means.
4. Not seeing a future for the relationship
When thinking about the future of your relationship, marriage doesn’t have to be the first thought that comes to mind. On the other hand, if the thought of being with your significant other one year down the road makes you uneasy, it may be necessary to reevaluate your relationship. It is important to figure out why you do not see a future with your partner. A lack of hope for the future of the relationship may be a sign that the relationship isn’t moving forward. It may be helpful to talk to your partner and learn about what future expectations exist for your relationship.
5. Wanting more time away from each other
If you start to notice that you or your significant other are frequently cancelling plans or do not seem interested in being together, this could be a warning sign that the relationship is in trouble. It is normal to have separate interests and friend groups, however, it is a red flag when you no longer want to spend time together. It is essential to evaluate how you used to interact. If the two of you used to enjoy spending a lot of time together, but now you don’t, it is worth discussing.
Upon noticing any of these signs, communication becomes even more critical in the relationship. It is necessary to talk about why these issues are occurring, and then see if there is a solution. This conversation may be difficult, but it is an essential step so that you can decide what to do about your relationship. Before jumping to conclusions, make sure to set aside time to have a serious conversation about any of the issues you may be having.